Results day can be an emotionally charged experience for any young person, but for those who are neurodivergent, the unique challenges they face can amplify stress and anxiety. The intense atmosphere, unexpected outcomes, and pressure to discuss future plans often create a sensory and emotional overload that can be particularly difficult to navigate.
Neurodivergent individuals, including those with autism, ADHD, or dyslexia, may experience the day differently from their peers. For some, the sheer unpredictability of results can be a major source of distress. Anxiety levels might skyrocket in the days leading up to and on the day itself, affecting their ability to process information or communicate their feelings effectively. Sensory sensitivities could be heightened by crowded halls or loud conversations, making it difficult to focus or feel calm. Executive function challenges might mean difficulty in organizing thoughts or articulating specific needs.
Insights from young people who have recently been through results day highlight a common thread: the desire for tailored, understanding support. Many expressed a wish for parents to prioritize their emotional well-being over academic performance. They indicated that a calm and prepared approach from adults could significantly alleviate their stress. Simple accommodations, such as knowing the plan for the day in advance, having a quiet space to process the news, or having a trusted person to accompany them who understands their specific needs, were frequently cited as beneficial. The pressure to immediately make decisions or discuss future paths can be overwhelming, and a slower, more patient approach is often preferred.
For parents, providing effective support means understanding these potential differences and planning accordingly. Before results day, discuss expectations and possible scenarios in a clear, straightforward manner. Help your child visualize the day, including who will be there and what steps will occur. On the day itself, create a calm environment if possible. Offer to pick up results privately, or ensure there’s a quiet space nearby if attending in person. Respect their need for space or time to process information without immediate interrogation. Focus conversations on their feelings and efforts rather than solely on grades.
After results are received, whether they are a cause for celebration or disappointment, continue to offer consistent, non-judgmental support. Help them process the outcome, reassuring them that their value is not defined by grades. Discuss next steps calmly and collaboratively, breaking down any daunting decisions into smaller, manageable tasks. Reiterate that you are there to support their future, whatever path they choose, ensuring they feel understood and advocated for during a pivotal moment in their lives.
